You think you can change a witch. You talk with her and explain to her why and how and when she hurt your feelings. She can be your wife, your sister, or even your boss. It does not matter your relationship to that witch. The only person in this equation you can change and more importantly, help is you.
And there are lots of names in the vocabulary to a witch. Here are some of them: Tart, wench, bitch. The latter is my favorite.
So many times you have been talking with her about your feelings. So many times you have explained to her why she hurt your feelings when she says this or that. How she knows exactly to push your buttons. She would come back to you and say so innocently: “Oh, I’m so sorry. I didn’t mean it that way. You got it all wrong. And why are you so sensitive? You know how I talk.” She would say that she loves you, and everything she does or say comes from a good place, a place of love, from the bottom of her heart.
Look, you have to make the decision to change. You have to remember to be on high alert around a witch. It is in your hands, because sincerely she is not going to change, not for you and not for anybody else. This is her nature. It is going to be a dance that both of you will dance perfectly. She will say or do something that will get your blood pressure high up in the sky. You will be hurt. You will decide to argue with her on the spot, or after a few days take her to lunch or dinner and explain to her why you are so upset. One time she will say: “Don’t eat all the shrimps. Leave some for the others.” Another time she will say: “So and so said you are an idiot.” Or she will say: “Jennifer said she doesn’t want to be like you.”
We are all familiar with Aesop’s fable: “The Scorpion and the Frog”. In midstream the scorpion stings the frog. This is the scorpion’s nature.
You see, witches don’t hear themselves talking. They are just throwing words at you, or horribly criticizing you to the point where you feel like you are smaller than a lab mouse. Seriously! Stay away from witches. They are not your friends. You have been trying so many times to convince yourself that she is good and she is your friend. No! The witch is not your friend. Why? If you are telling your friend, or someone close to you that at a particular incident they hurt you, they will try to change so they don’t repeat it again, because you mean something to them, and they truly value your friendship.
Stay away from them. You have talked to them so many times. You have made your case clear in front of them. You came up with reason to them. You have shed a light to them about how their words and or actions can be felt like a very sharp sward penetrating right through your heart. You have been there so many times.
If you totally have no choice and you are bound to stay with this witch for a while, be on the alert at all times, keep the conversation short. Make excuses to get away from her faster than ever. Guard yourself emotionally. Tell yourself something like: “Here it’s coming. She is going to say something ugly.” You can also try smiling, or even laughing. Laughing in her face will make her so angry, but you may feel better. You know why? You will feel better because you will feel you can better control the situation, and you are actually doing something good to protect yourself from the witch. Another idea that always helps me is to write about it.
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